Marriage Preparation Course II

A book named “Creative Love”, co-authored by Fr. Cajetan Menezes, Mrs. Judy Mendonsa and Dr. Kiran Coelho is brought out by the Snehalaya Family Centre Cell. All participants attending the MPC are given a copy and encouraged to read the same. The book covers the varied dimensions of Marriage and its true meaning, especially in the light of the Catholic Faith. Answers to a number of questions that covers the practical, emotional, intimate and sexual issues connected with Marriage. Explanation of the technique of Creative Natural Family Planning (CNFP) with needed diagrams and charts, as well as, explanation of the fertility cycle of both the sexes. It also has a couple of exercises to know better about yourself, and your relationship. The book makes a good and informative read. It certainly projects not only the Holiness, but also, the true meaning, pleasure and privilege of entering into such a Blessed marital bond.

At the MPC, we were asked to bring with us a notebook, a pen, and the book on Creative Love. The facilitators supplied us with a file, and material containing the pointers of the various sessions that were held. Evaluation of the sessions were conducted at the end of the course. During the period of the course, there were a couple of group discussions with and without one’s partner within the same group; discussions with one’s partner; and individual assessments as well with regards to the meaning of love, marriage, how much we know about ourselves and our partner etc. Handouts were given, as well as a couple of thought provoking audio visuals were shown.

A sheet containing 85 points, which needs to be discussed with one’s partner was also handed over. The participants were requested to cover those points before their marriage. Many of the points mentioned, pertain to the norms of the Indian society, which, if not dealt with, affects the relationship of a couple, especially, those living within Joint families.

The MPC, in the truest sense of the word made Hoopoe and I fall all the more in love with each other. It took our relationship to another level. We literally felt Blessed and made for each other kinds. Every session conducted during the course, helped us not only to understand the other better, but also, understand meaning of marriage in totality.

At the end of the course, and to this date we wish to attend many of the Marriage Enrichment Programs conducted by them. For us, it wasn’t just a course, but, more of an experience and a journey.

And how can I forget, the love songs that were played during every break, which made the atmosphere even more romantic! The hall abounded in love and positivity! That was definitely one of those times, where, Hoopoe and I just couldn’t let go off each other, we constantly wanted the other to be within our frame of vision.

What I totally appreciated was the announcement made at the start of the course:
“Being a part of this course with your partner doesn’t mean you need to go ahead with your marriage, but, rather, an eye opener about your partner, and your compatibility. If you find that there are too many issues and differences, then sort them out before you walk down the aisle, or, if there is absolutely no common ground, it would be better to go your separate ways!”