One of the sessions that touched us was, understanding what love is, and the phases that a couple or an individual experiences, in marriage. It quite often happens that one person is at a different phase as compared to their spouse/partner, and this is when patience and understanding plays a pivotal role.
The three phases described were: Romance, Disillusionment, True Love.
Love was defined as:
Love is a feeling.
Love is a decision.
Love is also an ability.
Priorities in married life, with regards to other family members were highlighted as:
Primary priority – Spouse
Secondary priority – Children
Tertiary Priority – Parents and family
Another session that we liked was, ‘knowing our self’, which comprised of pointers and questions that led to better understanding of our behavioural patterns and the emotional family baggage that we carry.
Psychologists say that every person, at every moment has atleast 20 reasons or things to be happy about.
Another pointer given that I liked was:
If you can love/accept yourself with your negatives, you can do so to the same extent with your partner’s negatives.
We were asked to practice the following every day:
1. Affirm 10 to 20 things that are great in your partner.
2. Before retiring to sleep, affirm yourself in areas of love, self-worth and talent.
In yet another session, we were asked to define what Marriage meant to us:
Hoopoe defined it as:
Marriage is a life long promise of my fidelity, love, care, honesty to my partner, in all times good and bad.
It is a word to the Lord that I will take care of His creation and love it just like He does.
I defined it as:
Marriage is understanding, trust, love, fidelity, care; learning about the other, growing together as individuals and as a couple, satisfying each other’s emotional needs and at the same time giving personal space. It is an eternal journey.
Facilitators at MPC defined it to us as:
Marriage is a call to intimacy.
Marriage is a challenge to love deeply your spouse and family.
We had a session on “Growing in Intimacy” in a marital relationship which included:
Intellectual Intimacy
Emotional intimacy
Social Intimacy
Spiritual Intimacy
Physical Intimacy
Later on, we were even given an assignment, on our take on “Money Matters” in our marital life, right from celebration of the wedding to budgeting, investments etc.
In the next post on MPC, I will cover the two activities that touched a chord in our hearts, which we will cherish for a lifetime.
- Sweetness
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2 comments:
Educational, to say the least.
But it could have been a bit better if things were put in chronological order, or in the order you were asked to do. Would be easier to connect then.
Waiting for your next MPCs.
Thank you Zave for the input. Infact, after reading your comment, I re read the post as a person who wasn't present for the sessions, and I understood what you meant!
Will try to better the MPC posts, the next time around. Infact, I have worked on two other MPC posts, in which one is detailed, and the other just a summary, but, I guess in the future posts, I will be going into details on particular topics. Already worked on one which is "Conflict Management in a Relationship".
Your inputs certainly provide me with the encouragement to continue writing about the MPC.
Thank you again.
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